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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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The actions of recovery are different from just distracting yourself by burying yourself in work. (Published 4/22/2014)


I am 25 years old. In March, 2010, my 3 year old daughter died. Since this happened, it's like I'm forcing myself through everyday. I have become increasingly angry, and then sad—just a roller coaster of emotions. I can't look at her pictures too much because it feels like someone is stealing the air from my chest. The holidays just passed and it was awful. I work all the time just so I don't think about it, I guess, I still don't want it to be real. When I finally do break down and cry it seems to happen at bad times, like when I am at work. I just want to know how to begin to deal with this. My inability to deal with my emotions seems to be causing tension with the rest of my family, I know they understand what is going on but I know it is getting exhausting for them. What should I do?

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